Expansive love and union are the result of operating from pure, freedom based desire instead of deep, emotional need

I’ve often said that if a woman is to have expansive love and union, she won’t find that on the level she’s used to operating on.

This is because if you want a love without limits, you, yourself, can not be coming from limits.

Most women will speak, think, act, believe, desire, and react from what she has experienced in the past. Even when she speaks about what she desires in the future, it is often from a lens of what she’s tired of experiencing, what she regrets doing or not doing, or any other limited thinking and processing.

When a woman is still operating from negative experiences in the past, she is often desiring union out of deep emotional needs that weren’t fulfilled in childhood or previous relationships.

This will seldom create the union she desires because the union can’t actually fulfill these deep, emotional needs.

What do I mean by “deep, emotional needs”?

For example: The need to be made to feel worthy, loved, respected, not empty, validated, to be made to feel like you actually can make good choices in your life, like you are where you should be in life… etc

Do not misunderstand me here.

I am not saying that a man can’t value, love, respect you and all of the other things.

In a proper, expansive union he 100% will.

I am saying that he can NOT make you feel like you’re worthy, like you’re respectable, like you’re lovable… this has to be self sourced.

I am also in NO WAY saying that a woman has to be completely healed before getting into an expansive, loving union, but what I am saying is that she must desire the union purely and for what it can actually produce for her instead of thinking it will fulfill a deep emotional need.

In many ways, being in a loving union can be healing and can provide her with the space and support she’d need, but it is still her job to truly work it out for herself.

In any case, if you’re desire for union is based off of needing a man to make you feel like you’re worthy, respectable, lovable and all the other things because DEEP DOWN you DON’T really feel like you are, you won’t have that union.

This is because you want it for the wrong reasons.

Expansive love and union is actually the result of pure, freedom based desire.

Desire that comes from freedom and leads to freedom.

An example of this is a woman remembering an old boyfriend and remembering how she loved how he spoke to her, how he held her, the deep connection they had and how much she grew while in love with him. She desires to experience that now again, but this time, even better and more intense because it is so life-giving and beautiful.

She wants to be connected with someone like that again: immersed in love like that again.

Can you tell how her desire is a freedom based desire?

Her desire is expansive and limitless. It comes from remembering the freedom she felt in her past and the freedom she’s thrilled to experience in the future.

This woman’s desired union would just ease into her life because it is pure, mobile, limitless, and not weighed down with anything that a union can NOT actually give her.

This woman is operating on the same level where expansive union and love exists.

Compare that to a woman that desires union because she never really felt loved and finally wants to feel lovable.

This “desire” is derived from a deep, emotional based need and could never result in expansive, union simply because it comes from such a limited state.

Expansive union and love do not exist on this level and they never will.

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