How high self worth and high self esteem actually show up in relationships with men

Self-worth and self-esteem serve as the cornerstones of a woman's emotional and mental well-being. These fundamental aspects not only shape her individual identity but also significantly influence her relationships, particularly those with men.

High self-worth and self-esteem give rise to a unique dynamic in relationships, signaling a deep sense of self-assuredness and contentment. In this discussion, we will explore 15 ways these qualities manifest in women's connections with men, illustrating their vital role in fostering fulfilling, respectful, and empowering unions between women and men.

We will delve into what high self-worth and self-esteem look like in practice within the context of forming connections and relationships with men. We will observe how these qualities empower women to transcend various pitfalls, leading to healthier dynamics with men.

Now, let's delve into these 15 aspects:

1. You don't feel the need to perform for him to stick around: This includes trying to impress a man, sleeping with him, buying him gifts, planning dates, and making long declarations of love through text, among other things. A high self-worth woman knows that being herself is enough. She understands that her natural expression and happiness to spend time with a man are sufficient. She recognizes that any man who doesn't appreciate her as she is may not be compatible with her.

2. You don't require ego boosts: High self-worth means not depending on external validation to feel self-worth. You don't need to put other women down or downplay their successes to feel secure. You also don't need to adopt a false empowered persona because you are already confident. A high self-worth woman is deeply rooted in her identity and knows she possesses exceptional character and qualities. She enjoys being herself and believes that others will appreciate her for who she is.

3. You know you’re not entitled to a man's money or resources: Entitlement often arises from a sense of lack and can carry hints of desperation. A high self-worth woman feels worthy and aligned with a certain level of treatment and quality. However, she doesn't demand or expect it from others. She simply engages with men who treat her at her perceived worth and gracefully declines men who do not. She knows that convincing others of her value is NOT necessary.

4. You avoid transactional relationships: Forming transactional relationships with men for material gain typically stems from prioritizing money over overall well-being, often neglecting emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. If you are making choices that neglect large aspects of yourself like this, this clearly does not come from high self -worth or high self -esteem. Additionally, this behavior values material possessions over human connection, ultimately devaluing people in favor of things. A high self-worth woman forms a genuine union with a man, valuing not only his resources but also his character and the genuine connection they share.

5: You don't get clingy and try to force his hand: Women often become clingy when they sense that a man is not on the same level of interest as they are. Clinginess can be a sign of low self-worth, triggered by the perception that the man is not reciprocating their feelings. It leads to attempts to suffocate the man into aligning with their emotions. This can quickly escalate into subtle manipulation to make the man call, go out, or think about them more. A woman with high self-worth rarely becomes clingy. If she senses a lack of interest, she simply loses interest herself.

6: You walk away when mistreated: Your tolerance level speaks volumes about your self-esteem and self-worth. A woman with high self-worth chooses to walk away from, decline, and reject anyone who disrespects or mistreats her. She values herself enough to know that there are individuals who will treat her well, respect her, and value her as she deserves. She maintains an abundance mindset rather than being constrained by thoughts of scarcity and limitation.

7: You express yourself regardless: Some women fear expressing themselves with men, afraid of saying the wrong thing and jeopardizing the connection. A woman with high self-worth knows that it's very DIFFICULT for her to say something wrong to a man genuinely interested in her. She understands that being authentic and true to herself is more appealing to him. If he likes her for who she is, it's a time for play, not an attempt to impress. She isn't afraid to voice her thoughts, preferences, or feelings, maintaining a lighthearted approach, confident that being herself and expressing herself fully is what the man desires. After all, he wants the real her.

8: You own your power to choose: A woman with high self-worth doesn't see herself as a victim of circumstances or life. She acknowledges the hand she's been dealt and understands that even when things aren't her fault, they become her responsibility. To achieve better outcomes, she takes control of her choices and follows through with discipline. She recognizes that her ability to decide and choose is her source of power. In her relationships with men, she continues to make choices based on her needs, desires, and her perception of self-worth.

9: You only entertain what you want to experience: A woman with high self-worth refuses to engage with elements in her love life that don't align with her desires. Whether it's in her music, social media, movies, family discussions, or with a man whose values don't match hers, she simply declines and rejects the undesirable. This might involve changing her social circle, consuming different media, altering conversations with family, and breaking free from old patterns of choosing unsuitable partners.

10: You love yourself well in your own mind: This crucial point, often overlooked, relates to what you entertain. A woman with high self-worth envisions herself being treated, loved, and supported well in her own thoughts. Some women get trapped in replaying past experiences, not realizing the power of their self-perception. By embracing self-love in her mind, she naturally seeks and accepts nothing less in her life. Anything falling short of this self-cherishing standard is instinctively rejected on mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical levels.

11: You accept all parts of yourself: While I touched on this earlier, it deserves emphasis as a distinct point. Shaming, avoiding, or suppressing any aspect of oneself leads to dissatisfaction and unfulfillment. A woman with high self-worth understands that life is a journey of growth and learning. Every part of her, along with her experiences, deserves grace, understanding, and love. Embracing and accepting herself fully is integral to her elevated self-worth.

12: You gravitate towards empowered men: A woman with high self-worth naturally attracts empowered men who take accountability and don't embrace a victim mentality. Her energy draws these men to her. On the other hand, women with lower self-worth often find themselves gravitating toward men who lack confidence and perpetuate a sense of helplessness.

13: You don't seek or care for outside validation: A woman with high self-worth is firmly rooted in God and in her own being. She loves and honors herself and genuinely believes in her incredible worth. As a result, she is not easily swayed by the opinions of the world. In her relationships with men, she shows up as her authentic self, firmly believing that the right man will appreciate her for who she is. She doesn't try to be someone the man desires. She just is who she is.

14: You are rooted in God: Many women with high self-worth believe in God because they need to have faith in something greater than themselves and greater than the world. This provides them with a strong foundation, especially during moments when the world seems overwhelming. Personally, my self-worth is rooted in my belief in Jesus Christ.

15: You're happy with your life and yourself: Lastly, due to all the factors mentioned above, women with high self-worth are generally content with their lives and themselves. While they may have their challenging days, the majority of their days are characterized by enjoyment and self-satisfaction.

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