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Let’s talk about how waiting anxiously all day for him to send a text or call you may be an indication that your feminine expression is offline.

November 09, 20227 min read

If you’re seeing a man or even in a committed relationship and you anxiously wait all day for him to contact you, this is a sign that something is “off”.

In my own experience as well as working with clients who have experienced this, it really all boils down to being disconnected from her inner world and the expression of that (feminine expression).

What I mean by this is that you have most likely been neglecting your inner world which includes what you desire or not, what you like/love or don’t, and what feels good and what doesn’t. And because you are currently disconnected from this, you are not able to be transparent enough with the man to convey your preferences pertaining to communication during the week.

This means that your feminine expression is “offline”.

As a result of this, you are kept in a place where you feel at the mercy of the man.

A woman who is fully connected with her inner world and who’s feminine expression is “online” is not at the mercy of a man anxiously waiting for him to contact her because she is enjoying all of the things she desires, likes, loves, and what feels good to her in her life.

On top of that, she has already positioned herself to have excellent communication with the man by expressing to him what she desires and doesn't desire, what she likes and dislikes, and how their interaction feels to her.

This is a direct result of her being connected to her inner world and her feminine expression being “online.”

So in this post, I will help you get in touch with your inner world and position yourself to have the best communication with men by getting your feminine expression back “online” via “love sandwiches”!

You may be wondering, what is a love sandwich?

A “love sandwich” is essentially a way in which you structure your sentences to a man to make sure you are expressing your needs and desires, respecting the man and where he is, and allowing him freedom; not giving him ultimatums, not nagging him, not shaming him, nor attempting to “control” him.

It is quite literally the fastest and most effective method of communicating difficult topics to a man while respecting both your autonomy and his autonomy that I have found. My clients and I have tested this over and over and have always found that “love sandwiches” breed positive results where both parties feel heard, understood, and satisfied.

Okay, so let’s dive into what you need to do to connect with your inner world, put your feminine expression back “online” and eradicate this anxiousness.

The first thing you’ll need to do is connect with your inner world. You do this by simply being present with yourself and asking yourself the following: What do I desire right now? What do I like right now? What do I love right now? What feels good to me right now?

Asking yourself these questions everyday or even better, a few times a day, really helps you connect with your inner world.

Each question should bring up many things after you ask it. This is a good thing!

Secondly, you want to allow yourself to actually enjoy some of the things that you desire, like/love, and make you feel good. This is allowing yourself to enjoy your life.

Third, get clear on what you desire, like/love, and what feels good about the communication between you and the man. You want to ask yourself questions like:

What do I desire our communication to be like? What do I like/love about our communication already? What don’t I like? What feels good about our communication? What doesn’t feel good?

Note: It is really important that you connect with your inner world and begin enjoying yourself first before you begin considering the communication between you and the man.

This is because sometimes women get too caught up in her relationship that she literally tunes everything else out. This is not good because it distorts the way you view things. You want to make sure you are viewing things from a clear perspective.

Once you are clear, the final step is to then express this to the man using a “love sandwich”! Using a “love sandwich” allows you to invite him into your inner world which he will feel is genuine and non controlling.

The first step in creating a love sandwich for this situation is to express what you love about your communication with him.

Next, you say something along the lines of "Yet I feel..." to express your grievance. Having already connected to your emotions and feeling everything through will help you convey things in a manner that honors what you desire, what you need, and how you feel with maturity and authenticity.

As part of my services, I work with clients to ensure what they express and how they express it is genuine and well received by the man.

Last but not least, you should end with a statement that again describes what you love about the communication you have. This is important because it keeps things lighthearted, keeps things positive, and keeps you connected to your heart (which he can feel).

If it feels right, you can also follow the last statement up with a question asking for his input like: But what do you think about that? How does that register on your end? Or even an indirect “Do you know what I mean?” works well here too.

To show you exactly how this would work, let’s backtrack to step three. Let’s say that your answers to the questions asked in step three are as follows:

Ideally, you desire to communicate with him around the same time every day (or however often you speak with him) so that you can effectively make time for it better and you don’t find yourself waiting around all day.

You love, however, the quality of the conversation you have with him as it’s always fascinating and makes you feel closer to him.

Sometimes he sends texts instead of calling you and you're not too crazy about that especially when he says that he’d call. However, it feels good when he does call and you have quality conversion with him.

With all of that being established,

Your love sandwich could be something like this:

“John, I really love our phone conversations. They’re always fascinating and I feel much closer to you afterward. Yet, I feel best when I know when you’ll call so that I can make proper time for it everyday. Because, like I said, I really love talking with you over the phone…”

And then you give him the space and time to reply.

With just a few sentences, you were able to express what you want, what you love, and how you feel about your communication in a genuine, warm, and non-combative manner. It even allows the man freedom to properly connect with you and respond adequately.

You’ll find that this will help you and your partner find a solution that works for both of you and will lead to improved communication.

Being able to connect to your inner world and let him in by properly expressing to him what you desire, like, and what feels good makes it so much easier for you to have your desires/needs met.

You no longer have to wait around all day anxiously for him to contact you.

Instead, you can spend the day enjoying yourself and having excellent communication with the man you love.

In my 12 week mentorship, “woman in union”, feminine expression and properly communicating your needs, desires, and standards is one of the main things that I help professional, feminine women work on in order to go from mediocre love to having the highest quality of love.

We also work on

  • increasing your capacity for receiving and maintaining love, intimacy, and support

  • attracting experiences with men that match your standards

  • identifying your feminine value and helping you feel deserving of elevated love

  • resurrecting the passion and intimacy in your relationship

  • and if needed/desired, we cover meeting men who are aligned with you via online dating/ organic dating and inspiring further commitment.This mentorship is a mid 4 figure investment.

This mentorship is a mid 4 figure investment. [$5,555]

If you'd like more info on the mentorship [what it entails, the process, and the qualifications], click here!

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Dream (Silas) Omans

Dream Silas Omans is a wife, writer, and mentor/coach specializing in guiding women toward fulfilling romantic connections and relationships/marriage with men. Dream's blog provides guidance for women seeking fulfilling romantic connections and relationships/marriage with men. It covers topics such as personal growth, empowerment in love, relationship dynamics, and practical skills for finding and nurturing healthy relationships. Dream offers practical advice and mentorship programs, including her flagship program "IRL: Better Than Fantasy," aimed at empowering single women to go FROM single and hoping for her turn to get lucky in love TO being claimed, committed to, and and loved well now and in the future by the man she'll love. Through her work, Dream aims to help women navigate the complexities of modern relationships and ultimately experience love, support, and fulfillment.

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